Perimenopause doesn’t come with a warning label.
One day you’re fine.
The next, your sleep is off, your patience is gone, your body feels unfamiliar — and everyone tells you it’s normal.
- Hot flashes.
- Night sweats.
- Brain fog.
- Mood swings.
- UTIs.
- Dryness.
- Heavy or unpredictable cycles.
Women are told to push through it quietly, stay grateful, and not complain.
But something powerful is shifting.
A Conversation Women Have Been Waiting For
On a recent episode of Way Up with Angela Yee, a different kind of New Year’s conversation took place — one rooted in honesty instead of resolutions.
Cultural voice and creator Melani Sanders, founder of the We Do Not Care Club, joined Angela Yee and Coach Gessie of DETOX NOW to talk about what women are really experiencing in perimenopause and menopause.
- Not fixing.
- Not shrinking.
- Not pretending.
As Melani shared during the interview:
“We are over capacity and we are not trying to be perfect anymore.”
That one sentence stopped everything — because it told the truth.
Women aren’t failing.
They’re overwhelmed.
And their bodies are asking for support, not judgment.
Why This Interview Hit So Deep
Melani’s honesty is exactly why her new book, The Official We Do Not Care Club Handbook, is resonating with women everywhere.
The book isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about remembering you were never broken.
Part survival guide, part permission slip, The We Do Not Care Club Handbook speaks directly to women navigating midlife changes — sleep issues, mood swings, rage, joy, body changes — with humor, truth, and zero shame.
It reminds women they’re not alone, and that listening to their bodies is not weakness — it’s wisdom.
Coach Gessie: When Menopause Becomes Personal
For Coach Gessie, this conversation isn’t academic — it’s lived.
After a 14-year battle with fibroids, five rounds of IVF, and a hysterectomy at just 44, she was thrust into early, full-blown menopause.
“I felt like I was losing my mind.”
Because of her medical history and unanswered questions around hormone replacement therapy and cancer risk, she chose a natural path — and went deep into research.
That’s when she learned how hormonal imbalance and vitamin D deficiency can mimic and worsen perimenopause and menopause symptoms.
Once she targeted those root issues:
- Hot flashes eased
- Night sweats stopped
- Mood stabilized
- Vaginal dryness resolved
That journey is why DETOX NOW created D3+K2, now one of the most important supplements in the line — to support hormone balance, inflammation reduction, and whole-body wellness during midlife transitions.
D3+K2
Victoria’s Testimony: From Chaos to Confidence
Victoria’s journey through perimenopause and menopause was intense.
It began with sudden symptoms — hot flashes, night sweats, heavy unpredictable periods — and escalated into constant UTIs that disrupted her life and intimacy. One infection was misdiagnosed for weeks, leading to emergency treatment.
“I felt like my body was betraying me.”
Then came a hysterectomy at 44, which pushed her into severe, symptomatic menopause.
While herbal support helped with hot flashes and mood swings, one issue lingered: extreme vaginal dryness that affected her confidence and sex life.
“I was DRY like the Sahara.”
Desperate for relief, Victoria committed to the BalanceHer Kit – Accelerate Level.
Within six weeks:
- Hot flashes stopped
- Night sweats disappeared
- UTIs were gone — and never returned
- Sleep improved and energy returned
Then something unexpected happened.
After just three weeks of consistent BalanceHer Kit (which includes D3+K2), her vitamin D levels stabilized around 70 ng/mL, and her body began producing healthy cervical fluid again — for the first time in years.
“I literally needed a pantyliner. I was shocked.”
Her takeaway?
“Perimenopause and menopause don’t have to be miserable. With the right support, they can be your rebirth.”
Monét’s Perimenopause Testimony: Clarity, Calm & Focus Restored
Monét’s experience with perimenopause showed up differently — but just as disruptively.
- Night sweats.
- Poor sleep.
- Brain fog.
- Mood shifts.
- Loss of focus.
She didn’t feel like herself anymore.
After starting BalanceHer Kit – Manage Level, she noticed steady changes over about 8 weeks:
- Fewer night sweats
- Deeper, more restful sleep
- Sharper focus and mental clarity
- Better skin
- Less irritability, more calm
“I honestly feel like myself again.”
She gives it a 10 out of 10, telling anyone who will listen:
“Yes, you need this!”
Her story is a reminder that perimenopause doesn’t mean decline — it can be a season of clarity when the body is properly supported.
The Bigger Truth Women Are Waking Up To
As the Way Up conversation made clear, women aren’t fading out in midlife.
They’re waking up.
- Symptoms are not character flaws
- Exhaustion is not failure
- Balance is possible
And it starts with listening to your body, supporting your hormones, and refusing to suffer in silence.
Reclaim Your Balance
If this season has left you feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or disconnected from your body, know this:
You are not broken.
You are over capacity.
And support matters.
- Get Melani Sanders’ new book “The Official We Do Not Care Club Handbook” — a powerful guide for women done pretending and ready to listen to themselves again.
- Support your body with the BalanceHer Kit — Designed to help address hormonal imbalance, inflammation, and the symptoms women experience during perimenopause and menopause — with real women seeing real results.
You don’t have to choose perfection.
You get to choose balance.
